« Lessons: September, 2009 | Main | I'll be talking about (and signing my novel) on Saturday! »

October 15, 2009



Best entry yet.


Eric, a great post that I connected with in so many ways. I really like your use of "resetting the clock back to 18 years". I was faced with that decision and had to let go of a woman I can only describe as the love of my life. As much as I wanted to feel only as old as I think, reality got in the way and I envisioned those 18 years as a constant struggle, not a gift. I had to let her go.

I hope things work out for you in the choices you face! And Happy Birthday!

Juan P. Steibel

Thanks for the post. Being a 36 y.o single dad of a 10 y.o. daughter who is giving up on the idea of having another baby ever, I can see myself reflected on it.

As a note of color, I'm copying a poem by Uruguayan poet Mario Bennedetti (and my translation)

Todavía tengo casi todos mis dientes
casi todos mis cabellos y poquísimas canas
puedo hacer y deshacer el amor
trepar una escalera de dos en dos
y correr cuarenta metros detrás del ómnibus
o sea que no debería sentirme viejo
pero el grave problema es que antes
no me fijaba en estos detalles

I still have almost all my teeth
almost all my hair and very little gray
I can do and undo love
climb stair steps on a two-by-two
and run forty yards behind the bus
so I should not feel old
But the serious problem is
I did not use to think about this


Dafna Michaelson

Very well written Eric. I so feel your baby conflict. As a chic, I guess I have to pay attention to the clock thing that guys can technically get around. Totally thrilled with my two kids...but nothing beats the feel of a baby sleeping on your chest. My b-day is in two weeks...
Good luck on your quest!

The comments to this entry are closed.

My Photo

Become a Fan


  • Eric Elkins brings more than a decade of writing, marketing, ePR, social media, and educational expertise to his clients.

    A former teacher and corporate trainer, Elkins spent six years as youth content editor at the Denver Newspaper Agency. He then became co-founder and publisher of Bias Media, a multiplatform media engine owned by the parents of the Rocky Mountain News and Denver Post. His model for reaching the elusive 21-34 market combined a print magazine, a website, events, text messaging and email marketing to build an integrated online/real world community. His experience at BIAS led to his role as New Media Practices Manager at Metzger Associates, a PR and venture strategies firm, where he incubated development of Mocapay, a mobile commerce company. Elkins transitioned from Metzger to become VP of Marketing at Mocapay before leaving to found WideFoc.us, a social media strategies agency, in 2007.

    He blogs about being a single father and has written several books. His Twitter handle is @datingdad.

Follow me...

Enter your email address:

Delivered by FeedBurner

Click Here

Blog powered by Typepad